Problem With Women

In another message here, I said that I don't believe all or even most men who go to strip clubs are Pathetic Losers.  That's a name some of them give each other and even themselves.

It applies to some I guess.  There are guys who go to strip clubs because that's the only way they're ever going to see a good looking naked woman or maybe touch one.  I don't think they are the majority or even a large %.

I want to talk about them however.  I want to talk about what their problem is.

Their problem is that they don't know how to relate to women.

I don't know what causes this.  Maybe there are all different reasons.  At some point in their lives they developed an anger towards women especially beautiful women.

That anger keeps coming out and it makes them less appealing to beautiful women so beautiful women keep rejecting them and it makes them even madder.

A vicious circle.

They are easy to spot.  They refer to women in general as bitches or whores or cunts.  When you hear any of those names you probably have a guy who has a real problem with women.

Of course you could argue that certain women do things that deserve the names.  If a woman offers to have sex with you for money, she is a whore.  However there are nicer words you could use.  When you use that one, there is probably some anger and contempt behind it.  Unless you say it very lovingly, it is probably meant as an insult.

Bitch is usually meant as an insult too.  I don't even have to discuss cunt.

One time I got friendly with a guy who kept coming into the club and hitting on the dancers, trying to get them to go out with him.  He was probably wasting his time.  Half the girls we had then were either married or in pretty solid relationships with boy friends.  One was gay.  The rest were just not the kind to go for a guy like this.

I tried to tell him he was wasting his time but I guess he didn't know any other place to meet women.  Maybe he just wanted to inspect the merchandise and see a woman naked before he went to the trouble of asking her out.

One night, he asked me, "What's the secret?  What do I have to do to get one of these bitches to go out with me"?

There was his problem right there.

He didn't call them bitches to their faces but he treated them with a lot of anger.  Women can sense anger.

Dancers in a club are very sensitive to how men view them.  They know they're sex objects to the customers who come in.  If they're going to relate to a man in any other way than to just sell him lap dances, they want to believe he thinks of them as more than just sex objects.

Please understand that I am not telling you you can't call a woman a bitch or a whore or a cunt or anything else you want.  I hate language police.  I am just telling you that if you want them to like you, you have to convince them that you like them and not just because you want to fuck them.